KGirl - Movin' On and Out!

[KGirl]

Thanks, GB : ) I'm glad you think so! It is true that this is not what I saw or wanted for myself (as with most everyone on here!) but you can't make everything you want happen.

So, now I'm super PO'd at H after all my good feelings and thinking this morning. I could use some help figuring out what to say to him because I need his help this next week...

My move out is this next Saturday, so I have one week to get things packed and divided up. H has insisted that he be involved in dividing things up and negotiating what stuff he wants to keep. I have asked him numerous times over the past several weeks for specific days/times where we can go over certain areas of the house. He either doesn't answer or says "I'll think about it." It finally got to the point where I couldn't wait anymore so I'd just bring him random items from various parts of the house and say "I would like to take X, and you can have Y. How does that sound?" and then he'd grump and then reluctantly agree. He says he wants to be involved but isn't responding to my requests to do so.

Leading up to... just a bit ago, I'm working on washing dishes and doing laundry so everything is organized. H is putting on sunscreen, getting beers from the fridge, etc. - apparently going somewhere. As he's getting ready he says "so I guess we'll need to go through the kitchen stuff tonight or tomorrow?" I'm starting to boil so I say...
Me: "Yes, but not just that. We still need to do the linen closet, and the basement, in addition to the kitchen stuff."
H: "I thought the basement was done."
Me: "No, you said you wanted to go through all the holiday decorations." (I had wanted to just take them all, they're already all packed in bins for each holiday, but he said he wanted to "see what was in them" and see if he wanted anything.)
H: "Fine. Well, you were out doing sh*t last weekend, so now I'm going to do sh*t this weekend" *exits*

1) He was gone more last weekend than I was! He went to his parents Fri. night through Sun. morning (which he didn't tell me about until Thursday, so I had figured he'd be around to help with all this but then was not), I was just gone on Sunday.
2) How does he expect me to work with this? He won't schedule times with me to do this, then he just disappears, then blames it on me when I'M gone.
3) He knows this is my last weekend to do this kind of stuff.
4) He can't have it both ways. If he wants to "oversee" my packing, then he needs to be there. I don't care if he goes and does stuff, and I don't need his help with any of this, I could do it all myself. If he insists on being here I can honor that but up to a point - I'm not going to bend over backwards to accomodate his mysterious "schedule" and wait until the last minute. He is a procrastinator, I am not, so it may be hard for him to see why I want to get most of this done now and not Thursday or Friday next week.
5) Why is this suddenly a contest to see who can GAL more??

My first thought was that I wanted to say to him when he got home "I didn't appreciate your comment earlier. You were away for more of last weekend than I was. I've asked you many times to set days and times with me to do this, but you haven't, so I've resorted to asking you when I can, but it's hard to do that when I don't know when you're home or not home. I don't care what you're doing or where you're going but I need to get packed, and you say you want to be here, so I need more help and information from you to do this." Is this too harsh? I feel like I've made it clear so many times that we need to set specific days/times so there aren't any assumptions about when someone will be here or not be here, but he hasn't responded. I don't really know what to say anymore that will help, at risk of an ultimatum ("If you are not able to help me tomorrow with this, I am just going to begin dividing things up on my own. I will be as fair as possible.")

Any thoughts?