own buz 30: My self-value, dropping the rope.

[sandi2]

Good job, Magic. I use to have a big problem interrupting my H when talking. And once I did it, then he never finished what he started out to say. Then if I wanted to know, I would have to ask him. It's a bad habit.

Remember me saying that he wil bel testing you and continuing his game playing? Take a look at his example here:

He mentioned that real estate agent lady had called him earlier today to say his opportunity is still possible (I gave it no attention... I don't want to be jealous) Then he randomly started off with "I'm not sure what your plans are or if you want to go, but X (family member), is having their annual summer party in July and thought you might like to go"... or something to that effect

He was trying to set you up, Magic. First, he pulls the old jealousy card. When you didn't respond the way he expected, then he dangled the bait (again) at another opportunity of being with him. Again, he makes sure not to clarify, b/c in the past, your wheels would be turning. "Is this a date? Does this mean he want to see where it leads? Etc., etc.". I bet he was surprised you didn't jump on it! Great job!

You will have to battle your own thoughts now. Don't let your thoughts run the old treadmill you've done in past times. Every time you start having questions, shut your thoughts down. Otherwise, those old though patterns will be self-defeating. Counteract those questions & second guessing yourself with your new mission statements. If you don't know what they are.........decide.

He uses a lazy, cowardly, immature, and almost sleezy style. You don't have to put up with it. You can do much better, and deserve much better. Let his mother & father's R be a warning to you. You can see where his mom was crazy for the way she chose to deal with things. Don't copy her style.

I use to watch my dad fish. He would fish for a certain kind. He would use bait he had had success catching that particular fish. But sometimes the bait he used didn't seem to work. Know what he did? Yep, he switched bait. He didn't give up until he ran out of various baits.........and then he would say, "Well, they are biting today!" Your xbf is going to try old familiar bait to hook you. When he doesn't get a nibble, he'll try a different bait to see if you bite.

He tried the familiar jealousy bait, got no nibbles. So then he he tried an event bait that he thought got a nibble last week. But for some reason, he didn't catch anything. (lol). So now what does he do? He starts out with the old familiar bait.......and gets nothing. Then he baits his hook with another event. And he's still dangling the hook in the water. Don't bite!!