Hi Tears, So glad about the dog and the progress. Crazy about how they think isn't it? I went out the other night and could tell W wasn't happy at all about it. Then, last night she went out for the first time in a while and stayed out until 1:00 AM. Doesn't matter to me but my D14 kept asking if her mom was coming home. This morning she is out "running errands"...this is a woman who NEVER goes out to run errands and the only time she does is when she is doing something she wants to hide from me. This time it's D paperwork and finding a place to live away from me. Who knows what else? Since her dad got involved things have been moving so much faster. I do know this, it's more important than ever for me to GAL apart from her. To be able to learn to handle things like you going to sons surgery and wedding knowing you are the one who tried. You are the one who made an effort and hold your head high.
Don't let your feelings allow him to be the one who gets to be there. The more you avoid doing those kind of things, it allows him to be the one who tells everyone what is going on. Do you want him to be able to just say how he is trying to be the good guy but you are too emotional to do the right thing? They really believe they are right and you are wrong. They really believe that it's fine to say and do the things they are. They don't know why they feel the way they do and blame us and will change history and see us as the bad guy. By NOT being that awful person, by not allowing him to stop you from doing what you normally would, you show yourself and your son you aren't that person.
Good for you about the call last night. Amazing how they do the things they do and then start with questions like "Was it a guy?". If he really thinks that he is going to be so much happier without you, what does it matter? It just shows how confused they really are. Stay strong, Tears. Don't let him stop you from being there for your S!
