So I've had several posts in the last few days, and my W has been crying frequently the last few days. We have a rental unit that is changing tenants, and this occurs tonight. Earlier in the week I received a text from the tenant saying they would be able to exchange keys etc tonight after 6. I mentioned it to my W, and then forgot about it.
Plans were made, she "needed some time" on Saturday. She was anxious to make plans. I know she hasn't seen OM for awhile. Yesterday I got a text from tenant reminding me of meeting Saturday night to exchange keys. I forwarded it to W, as she always asks me to ask her first about child care requirements. I don't really want to take all my kids with me, and she doesn't want people to think she has "checked out" or left (her words, not mine)
Long story short, she never responded, and I asked her last night again, and it created a breakdown, she was crying, really freaking out, talking about her plans etc. She was a mess. Pointless to discuss anything with, and really unreasonable.
My question is, should I have her help, or not even ask her. Part of me thinks it's better to do it all myself, and then part of me is frustrated she checks out, This is a mutual asset. I think the answer is do it myself, but I feel that just makes it easier for her to see the OM. I don't feel I should facilitate that in any way. Is that controlling and self-centred? Maybe a bit?
She hung up on me after I listened to her complain about her scheduling difficulties. I said I'm sure it's really difficult, sort of sarcastically. She claims she didn't deserve that. Arghh.
