I feel like the "we can be friends" is a salve for the WAS conscience.. they are not such a bad guy if the person they have abandoned can be a friend!
I'm sure it isn't the same in every sitch, but I believe that my H actually really does want to be friends. He has said that no one knows him like I do and that he can't see himself ever trusting someone enough to be as vulnerable with them as he is with me.
Originally Posted By: loualea
My H is depressed.. was before he left and it colours his world and view.. it is such a mess to talk with him.. the reactions are inconsistent and the total lack of awareness of the results of his actions on me.. hard to take. Which is why I have to detach.
I also think my H is depressed. It is something he has struggled with for years, though he denies it. He is also very inconsistent. He frequently contradicts himself from one sentence to the next. So, yes, I also have to detach. And remember to believe none of what he says and half of what he does.
