Cadet- I will check out that link on my lunch break. How do I find your homework post?

Brklynmom- I do worry about enabling his drinking. I have certainly stopped doing things I did when we were "together" like making him comfortable when he passes out or finding things he loses. I went to a few Alanon meetings a while back. The group was a Newcomers group that focused on the steps but no one shared personal stories or experience. I had said I was going to look for another group buthat never did. I should. I don't have any real life friends who have been through living with an addiction. OW told me that she left her husband years ago because he drank. She believes h when he tells her he only drinks because of me. I spent about a week fuming about that but finally realized it is not my problem. That is her lesson to learn.

GB- he is only alone with s 2 nights a week when I work till 10. I don't think I would trust him alone with him for any extended time.

I am going to spend some time tonight reading some of the MLC resources posted here. I think getting back to posting and reading here regularly will be good for me.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15