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[Barrybran]

Thanks LT. I wrote is because my wife asked me to. We've been dealing with this for over 12 months and from my perspective we've been focused on the actions of the infidelity while I've been bottling up my feelings as to why it happened. I read that dealing with her feelings was important and I couldn't find anything about dealing with mine other than they had to be dealt with for reconciliation to be successful. I read that as 'deal with her feelings and deal with my feelings if/when she wants to come back'. In the meantime, I had been dealing with my feelings here. I cracked the other night and told her the actions of the infidelity were only half the story. She called me out for still hiding things and she was right so I wrote the letter so she has the full story.

Aside from this instance, I've steered clear of letter writing since finding this site. It's not helpful at all.