[Lifes Twists]

Hi Semperfi,
I know where you are coming from. Sometimes you are dammed if you do and sometimes you are dammed if you don't. he trick is to figure out how to have your time with your friends while allowing her to do the same. She will have to feel comfortable that you can handle things while she is out. I could never get my wife to do that. She eventually built up resentment that I could do things while she was stuck with the kids. This lead into her not wanting to do things together or with the family. I believe in my case it was part of her illness. I would suggest in your case to plan things to do with the kids and give her enough warning that she will be off duty to do what ever she wants. Also plan things with your friends and just give her enough warning that she will have the kids. I am being forced into this right now. I am basically taking care of my three girls alone. I do hope wife will eventually come to realize that I am taking care of the kids alone and we are not killing each other.