Tears, I'm glad your dog is going to be okay and will be feeling better soon.
Georgiabelle is right about one thing...you need to protect yourself financially. The man you knew is gone and he doesn't care if there is one cent left in the accounts and you are scrambling to pay the bills. Once they start taking out large sums of money or charging a lot of things on the credit cards, it's time to do something before it's all gone. Take some of the money out of the checking/saving accounts and get new accounts only in your name. You have to do this and not worry about if he'll get angry. So, what if he does? He's not thinking about you or the kids when he's taken large chunks of money out. You can't rely on him to be the man your married because he's different now and has become more selfish and self absorbed and it's all about him.
Please get out of the house, take a walk, spend time w/the children and your dog or find a place to sit down in the park and just relax. You owe it to yourself to do something nice for yourself this weekend.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
