Hi hope 456 sad how our lives are paralleling each other.. if that is a word. all that you write resonates, the time lines, are the same and the broad siding and the difficulty with detachment..
I agree that it is hard to detach. I read some articles on the Livestrong website about detachment and dependency that were actually rather harsh but really brought the detachment issue home to me.. Does not mean I can do it well but does mean I understand I need to for me.
I feel like the "we can be friends" is a salve for the WAS conscience.. they are not such a bad guy if the person they have abandoned can be a friend!
I am struggling with that. my DB coach say the same thing about keeping friendly interactions but I still struggle. I do not get to see him so much at the moment.. not sure if that is good or bad.. helps me detach most of the time but then waves of misery.
My H is depressed.. was before he left and it colours his world and view.. it is such a mess to talk with him.. the reactions are inconsistent and the total lack of awareness of the results of his actions on me.. hard to take. Which is why I have to detach.
your GAL sounds good..my consists of running through the woods trying to speak another language..challenging but not fun
