Just checking in. I'm still here slowly working through my issues. So no more late nites on the phone or computer. No more items found in the washer from his clothing. Phone number has been changed and his comments have been positive regarding our M. Well, u would think all is well BUT he's having financial issues again. This [censored] and very disappointing because I have been carrying the full load since the BD with the exception of few attempts this year. As a matter of fact, he did not contribute to paying any of the bills in May. As far as he knows, the mortgage is behind again. Same ole excuse. Business is slow (home improvement) but he doesn't take the time to look for other types of work or get a part time job. So today, I came home from work. He greeted me at the door. When I asked how his day went, he said bad. He needs money to pay the cell phone bills and gas. He hung his head low and sulked. This is the moment when I would have offered advice or pay the bill but I did not. I simply said that I understand how it is not to be able to pay something important. I don't give a rats nannies azz about the cell phones. One of my reconciliation requirements was that he be financially stable and support the household. Im trying to give it time but this is a step back in my opinion.
So men, chime in. I don't want to kick him when he's down but how do I address this issue with him? I just don't believe he is doing all that can be done to bring in the money. After he stopped paying bills during the A but was whining and dining OW, buying rings and roses, I pay what we agreed upon and that's it.
Also, there used to a time when I would have followed him anywhere but now, Im not going down.
So what say u men? How do u all feel about your spouses confronting you with financial concerns when you SAY you're doing the best that u can?
