What if you changed the way you thought of "best forD"?
What if best for her in the long run is that when he asks you say yes, get a sitter... Because pretty soon his flexibility is gone and he has to realize he never sees her. That's if you think that will matter to him. Agree it's hard to think of permitting this when you care about her and want to be with her. Do you try to protect her relationship with her father?
Alternatively, you do give up on the M for now and get everything put in a legal order that stipulates he must stick to the schedule. Then see what happens. In the meantime, maintain a record of these requests on both sides and how they were dealt with to determine that there is a real imbalance.
Or you keep doing what you're doing and keep adding to the balance of resentment that he has no reason to redress, because he's getting his needs met no matter how you feel.
I know you'd prefer to hear from someone with more experience Than me...
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
