Thanks. But I can't make him stick to the plan. His response (which he has said in the past) would be something like, 'so would you prefer I get a babysitter instead?' And then the question becomes, for me, what is best for my daughter. I'm feeling lost because it has been suggested to me (and I agree) to put her first. On one of the nights, our babysitter is staying because I already have plans. I can't "make" him do anything, and I feel like my choices are crappy. And I feel like a broken record. Maybe that is why I have so few responses here. I keep saying the same thing over and over and not really changing. I do feel stuck about this particular issue. To change my own behavior to make it more equitable (in terms of personal time) means losing time with my D. That feels like a crappy choice. But so does accepting this as is.
But he really is clueless that his idea of "I'm just as flexible as you" means I have an 8:30 curfew (or have to ask/pay sitter to stay late even though she comes at 7/7:30 a.m. while he can stay out as late as he wants without asking favors, paying extra or inconveniencing anyone. But "it will all even out" according to him.
If we were together, this is an issue I would try to discuss and problem solve with him. I just don't know how to do that now...and I feel really frustrated. I know this is something I haven't detached myself from, and I'm feeling frustrated about that too.
And I think part of what is making me so sad is that I'm beginning to feel like this is not a M I want to save. (Again). And at the same time I will have to deal with this kind of crap from him for the next 20 years.
