Barrybran - New Thread

[Barrybran]

I wound up writing her a letter. I had time by myself to think and write. I wrote down everything that mattered to me dating back to when we got back together in 2011. I wrote down what happened, how I felt about things and how I got into the affair. I wrote down everything I felt about our relationship, about time together, intimacy, kids, priorities. I followed it up by saying that I had learned that my expectations were unreasonable and that I had been dependent on her and that I was responsible for my own life. I told her that my feelings were real and important despite the reasons for having them and that her feelings were real and important too, even if I disagreed with shut she felt that way.

I told her she showed cottage by standing up for herself and leaving. I reiterated that I have chosen to remain married to her and to live at home and that I would love my life according to these values. I apologised again and asked for her forgiveness and trust, not now but some day, and told her I knew that I had to earn it and that it would be hard work for the both of us if she chose to do so.

I feel good about what I said. I stuck to the facts, told her where i felt I was wrong and asked for our family to be reunited, acknowledging that I have work to do. Now I'll leave her with it and get back on the DB train.