So, you are doing everything you know to do romantically and physically. It sounds as if you may be smothering her some. If it's all about "her" (friends, time, interests, etc.) then maybe you need to reconnect with your own friends and start spending time with your own interest, doing what you enjoy doing.
I hear you. I do.
But she asked to spend more time with me. I listened to what she wanted, know what I mean?
And the thing is, the time we spend together IS great. We're newlyweds, after all. I LOVE her. I wasn't spending "enough" time with her before, now I feel it may be too much even though it's what she SAYS she wants. It's not every hour of our spare time, but again, I do try to spoil her.
Besides, we have so many of the same friends. We have a large social group----I surprised her for her 50th birthday last month with probably 25 friends waiting for her at the tables outside at a nice restaurant. I think socially, we're pretty good.
And I'm doing the things I like...except sex! Which I LOVE. I don't understand AT ALL how that passion went completely-one sided-----when I do come on to her sexually she likes it, she giggles, etc. It's only when it might lead to sex that I get turned down with "I'm too tired." I got a rain check when she said she was going to take a shower the other day, which we used to do a bit.
I'm afraid I know that check won't get cashed.
I do hang with my friends, even took a weekend camping trip with friends from out-of-state like we used to every year, just the guys.
I feel like she holds a grudge. I'm not perfect, and while I've never done anything severe we have fought a few times. However, I think she holds on to that hurt. That's all I can figure. And yet, I DO make her happy? I don't know.
I'm afraid people will think I'm leaving something out. I'm not. I'm more afraid that it's worse than I think; that I'm already doing everything right that I could have been doing wrong like other guys (and gals) I've read about here, and it's not enough. I CAN'T change her, but I can't convince her to try to change herself FOR ME AND THE MARRIAGE without holding a destructive, resentful grudge against me.
