Brother, Detach and start creating your OWN life right now! Look up Sandi's 37 rules and implement them daily. Whatever your story, you took away your wife's heart when you married her, you can do it again. The first step is being the man she met and the man she married. DB and DR are not 100% guaranteed to work, but you can increase your chances DAILY by being a better man and better father every day. You are improving yourself for YOU, if she notices thats awesome. If she doesn't, you're still a great man and a still a great father.
"Don't chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing, and work hard. The right people - the ones who really belong in your life - will come to you. And stay." ~ Will Smith