Thanks for sharing Thornton. I know she can stick to her decision though, she walked out of another 3+ year relationship prior to me and never looked back. She surrounds herself with people who will only support her decision and removes any naysayers.
I have 0 expectations moving forward that she will ever reach out to me again, and quite frankly don't know who she is anymore and thus wouldn't want to be with her as is.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
I read your posts and well am encouraged about mediation. I will be doing this in the next month or so. Spouse is a runaway not WAS, only 6 months married and 4 yrs. together. Anyway, be prepared for anything. I am. Most of the time when you do apply DBing, you have self healing and growth. The S hasn't done anything but run and well when they stop, there is often an awakening. I also think my H (most likely exH) is one of the few who won't come back. I've had other R that did many times. So, be prepared to gently tell her in a caring way, no go, which is what I hear from you. I wish you well and pray for you to grow more.
I guess the divorce is final as of May 21,2014. Wasn't really a DB success story in terms of saving my marriage, but did the best I could and worked on myself. I know have the tools to be a better partner the next time around.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
Ah. You're not alone about the DBing not being a success story for the M. However, it's a success for the one DBing. We'll use these skills in our lives and in other R. There is one thing I do want to point out when you commented about the xW WAW in 3yr. R and not looking back. At some time, after several Rs doing the same thing and not working, she may wake up. Often it's too late for the xS, but it does happen often, as I've read in these situations. Yes, I'll probably be one like you. Take care.
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
There was a very interesting development today. My XW was supposed to deliver all of my property to the house on Monday which she did not do. She was required to bring my ammunition to the attorney's office today, to also pick up her check and sign off of the deed to the house.
My attorney relayed to me XW dropped to her knees and started sobbing hysterically in the middle of the lobby claiming that I was mentally unstable and she did not want to give the ammunition back to me. My attorney stated it was a pretty dramatic event, she hasn't heard of anything like it really, especially from the spouse who chose to file for divorce.
The WAW, what an interesting specimen.
For what's it worth, I don't feel crazy. : )
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
This isn't a new thing around here. Rick1963 reported his XW flipping out at the lawyer's office when she had to hand over the house to Rick and everyone was very concerned that they had to call the cops to escort XW out of the office.
It is when the reality really HITS them hard in the face that they all crumble to the floor. Go figure when they're the ones that wanted a D in the first place.
This is what I'm trying to wrap my head around. She hasn't seen me in 8 months, how does she know whether I'm stable or not. None of our interactions since BD have been negative. I think the results of her actions finally hit her. Yes, I'm mind reading : )
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
