Tears: Wow. I know you have lots of them and it's difficult. Do some GALing and remember that whoever files first is the bad spouse, even if there's abuse. Why people think this? Who knows, but make sure you realize it might be just another thing he can put back onto you. For some reason, very few see that filing first is to save the M and family. As I was told, when there's kids, you'll always have the S in your life. This is so true. The W & H affect the kids no matter what, absent or not. I couldn't wait for D1 to be final and to get rid of that awful H. He was a bad H, but I allowed him to become a good dad. (Keep that one a secret!)
