I also believe that a big obstacle is how honest she has been with her family and friends. Some have been outright hostile with me, some have completely ignored my gracious goodbyes and others have stayed in touch and remained friendly.
I was extremely close with her mother. Who has been in my wife's shoes twice. She was extremely helpful, and is so far the only one to not have the OM on her FB friends list (lol).
Suspected EA: Feb 2013 Bomb drop: Mid March 2013 Separation: Mid April 2013 (I fought for marriage) Filed for Divorce: April 2014 Accidental Exposure of affair: June 2014