Something doesn't seem right. It really does seem like you're minimizing your issues. Obviously things were eating away at her (before the A). When you were withdrawn, did you pull away from her much? Is that how you normally dealt with conflict with her?
Be honest. I have a feeling there's something you're not telling us. And just to be clear, I'm not saying that it gives her a reason to have an A. It will, however, help us to direct you the way you need.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.