Your story made me sad, but as you've of course learned from reading these forums, it's -- sadly -- not unusual.
What is the waiting period for a D in your state?
There's nothing that says that you two can't get back together down the road. Something like 20%, I believe, of divorced couples end up getting back together and those that do almost always report their relationship being stronger than it's ever been. Continue to handle yourself with strength and honor, and keep things civil and dignified with your wife, and there's no telling what the future might hold. She just may be one of those (like my wife was!) that has to have the big D bolt strike 'em in the head before they come to their senses.
