Marching forward with deal breakers in hand

[mdu]

So H wants to let S go to the neighborhood nerf gun battle and H hangs out at the house, he said he would hang out outside and do some more yard work. I'm not sure how I feel about this. I don't want S to miss out but I feel like I'm making this too easy on H if I agree. Losing the neighborhood is a BIG deal for the kids in this whole thing if we end up D because we will have to sell the house. Lots of thinking between now and this evening...