I was almost tempted to text this morning and say lets talk Sunday about the d. lets get this done. is it what I want? I still don't know. I am almost having to remind myself what a jerk h has been. What I am working on is trying to let go of these feeling of resentment. the stinking thinking still pops up two years later.
I'm not sure I agree on T with this one Will.
He has been doing this "Speed things up, then stop" thing for awhile. It's the old Hurry Up and Wait. He gets you all stressed out about the D and, then, a big fat nothing.
What's gonna change if you pursue the D? You will be on sound ground financially. He will have set visitation days. He will be held accountable financially and, somewhat parenting-wise.
I mean, at this point, the D will give you some things you can count on because the law will back them up. Right now, you are still swinging in the wind at his leisure.
But, do you have to text him about the D? I thought you had a lawyer? Have your lawyer call his. That will get his attention.
I say Call his Bluff. He thinks you are just waiting and willing to do whatever he decides. You are the mother to his children and deserve better treatment. You won't get it unless you demand it...and, have a lawyer back it up.
He's been calling the shots too long. IMHO.
You can do this. You are the mother of a special needs child. We are a special breed...wayyyy tougher than we appear.
It's just a piece of paper.
Love,
Heather
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
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