Let him do the work - if there ever comes a time where you can't do this any longer, you'll know when that moment comes. Until then, just give it to God and patience. Forgiveness is hard sometimes, I've said this a lot but it really has helped me with resentment, "may <insert his name here> have all the good things in life that I've ever wanted for myself" say it every day for 2 weeks, do not miss a day. see if you've let go of some of the resentment after that. if you miss a day then start over. It doesn't seem like that would work but I learned it from my IC and for me it did help and I still say it especially when I'm feeling any anger or bitterness towards exH. Count your blessings every day. This D does not define you. One day you will have inner peace.
Me - 42 exH - 56 Married 10.5 years Together 17 bomb dropped 1/6/14 signed papers 2/4/14 H moved out 2/22/14 D final 4/4/14 Dropped the rope 5/17/14 2 cats, 2 dogs
