Hanging in there......or atleast trying.

Venting:

Really Venting:

I'd like some input if there is any out there. I'd really just like to know why. I'll try to explain without confusing anyone.

I'm so p!ssed right now that I can hardly see straight. I'm not only p!ssed, but also pretty confused and maybe even a little hurt.

When I got the bomb and everything was going on, XW told me on more than one occassion that if I ever had any contact with her family, she would have someone "mess me up." Once, she even told me that she would fly her brother in from California to kick my a$$ if I ever had contact with her family. Not the woman I married, but.....we know that.

Last week, my niece (XW's sister's daughter) who I was pretty close to because I had no daughters and always kind of wanted one, graduated from high school. XW did not go, but went to her graduation party. I was not invited. No biggie. I expected it.

Tonight, my nephew (my dead brother's son and my blood) graduated from high school. I didn't get an invite to the graduation which was fine because I know that tickets to those events are usually pretty limited. However, he had a graduation party afterwards. I did not get an invitation....ok. That's fine. We really weren't too close because they lived a fair distance away and XW never liked my SIL or her family. However we did get fairly close (or so I thought) recently when my mom was sick and dying.

Tonight, I found out that XW was at his party!!! WTF??? My XW didn't even socialize with them when we were married. She sees and talks to them more now that we are divorced. What is the deal? I found out about it because S23 saw pictures on XW's FB page and was pretty upset about it. He told me. My nephew and XW weren't close and rarely talked. S23 and my nephew were close and talked all of the time.

XW never talks to me or asks anyone about me which is understandable since she thinks I'm Satan, but why can't she keep her nose out of my family....especially people she rarely talked to when we were married? Is this normal? Is she really that messed up?

S23 told me tonight that he rarely even talks to her anymore. She doesn't initiate any contact with any of the boys, but she can go to my nephew's graduation party and post pictures all over FB? As I said, when we were married, we rarely saw them...

Also, her new husband did not go to this party. (S23 says they rarely do anything together) I know....weird. But, she had to drive by my place 2 times today to get to the party - once to get there, and once to drive back to her place. Her husband was not with her. It would have been easy for her to stop by and atleast say hello to our boys. She made no attempt to stop and talk to our boys and didn't even call them to tell them that she would be in the neighborhood. Nothing.

She has more contact with members of my family, MY FAMILY, than she does with our boys? Is this normal whacky MLC crap or what?

I don't know if I'm more p!ssed at her or more p!ssed at SIL. My mom would have a fit.

I just don't get it.

And people wonder why I'm done.

SO DONE with everything.

Tad


Currently:
M 56 XW 57
Sons 38,33,31,29

The Sitch:
Married 26 years
EA w/ OM 9/10
Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary)
Sep 12/10
She wants D 1/11
W files 5/11
D final 10/11
XW marries OM 6/13