Pocket knife he has had forever. He did buy one for ow recently that looks like his. I am sure the movie will make h more paranoid.
H retained divorce attorney. My lawyer can't wait to cream him. I am not sure if he filed or what, and he is unclear too. Dumba$$. Spends several k and dies not know wtf he is doing. Yet again he lied as situation he was waiting for is not over. I had a few tears but am doing ok. FIL was very upset apologizing for his son. Told him I cannot help h, he is his problem now, I just hope he shapes up for kids. Worst part is he kept our youngest home from school and took her, she was in a room alone while he did this. H also had the guts to say it would be worse on him than kids or me. Wtf...your kids will hurt most. Ugh...need a 2 x4
So, he took the ow to see the movie. Now, that's funny. She'll have many ideas and what to do in the months to come if he strays or opts to call it quits.
The pocket knife has to symbolize something from his life if he keeps it on him at all times. A lot of this crisis people do things like that because it reminds them of a happier place in their "young" life. I just can't see the ow having one like his. What in the world would she need one for...to whittle away her free time? LOL!
Another one who doesn't know wtf he's doing w/a lawyer. The lawyers can spot them a mile away and know exactly what they are going to be dealing with. I'm sure your lawyer is just waiting to see what he and his lawyer come up with. He's not thinking about you or the kids right now...but he's most certainly think about how a divorce will impact his wallet.
I hope that you have been keeping record of things and have your financials in order so that your lawyer won't have any questions about spending, debt, etc. I know you already know this...but leave any of your documents out in view or somewhere he can get to them easily.
Hang in there.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Tomorrow is a big day. First job interview in over 20 years and also going to lawyer to file for divorce. Idiot retained a divorce attorney - so I am going to file. h does not know of the interview or the lawyer. He does know that I am losing my job though. I am nervous for the interview and nervous and panicky for the lawyer. I know that I have to do both, but in the same day? UGH! I want my boring life back.
H has become quite the a$$. He is a horrible liar, my youngest even points it out now. He really is showing poor judgment, even poorer than before. Took kid to Law office with him - NOT SMART! Duh! If your kid is sick cancel appointments.
So I wonder why he has the sudden rush to get divorced? H says work is fine, and he is safe. I don't believe that. IS OW wanting him divorced? Does not matter they would break work policy unless one of them moved spots.
I really wish that sometimes I could live in la la land like H. It seems (but I know it is an act) that he is always happy. One of our friends who has become more of my friend said I will come out on top, bc I am way more stable. They cannot even stand to be around H anymore. They say he is bragging about himself nonstop, talks awful about me, calls me dumb bc I think he is having an affair with OW, is trying to be everything to hide the pain, and is a a$$hole with a bad temper.
I am going to go NC when the divorce is final. He is going to be pissed when he gets served. For the most part I have others here 24/7, as I don't trust the idiot. I just hope I have the strength to get through the lawyer, and I am taking someone with me for extra ears.
Thanks for everything everyone. I need to start looking for a forum of divorced people.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
Good luck on the job interview! Try to stay as calm as possible both in the interview and w/the lawyer. Do you have your list of questions for both appointments, just in case you need to ask them something?
Hang in there!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks everyone! Interview went well. I would love to work there as the people are so nice, and I would get to be with kids. I find out Monday or Tuesday. It is a cut in pay, but at least it is a job, and it is pretty close to kids schedule. What would I do with summers and holidays off?
The lawyer went great! My dad had same feeling about lawyer as me, he liked him. H wants me to do a mediator with him. In our state you do not get your lawyer with you for mediation. But the lawyer said that there are ways around it. I also found out that I can move into my parents any time with the kids, and it won't hurt me. H had today off, and kept sending texts while I was with the lawyer, bc he did not know where I was. My lawyer wants to slaughter him, but will only do what I ask.
H is still escalting, but have someone around all the time. I am tired of all the verbal abuse. ugh!
Scooby, Are you planning to move in w/your parents? It's something to think about since your h is escalating. You have to think about you and your children and the environment you are living in, i.e., never knowing what he may do in a fit of rage and the verbal abuse is non-acceptable. You are a wonderful human being who doesn't deserve to be someone's punching bag, be it physical or verbal.
I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers and hope that you get the job you interviewed for. You need a change and this would be a great start.
Try to enjoy your weekend. BTW, I'm glad your father went w/you to the lawyer's office.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
