[BrightFuture]

Job, thanks for responding to me. I really appreciate your insight.

He already separated some things before, like he has his separate bank account, so he stopped using our joint account and now calls it “your” (mine) account. He also redirected his VA mail, I guess he figured it was not so appropriate for me to ship his Viagra from my house to wherever he is. This was kind of the boundary taking care of itself.

I have the same feeling that he probably realized that my new job is going to change how things are done. I don’t really have anything to do with our business right now. So, he figured that it would be too obvious cake easting to still have me do his credit card bills for him. I realized that the new address is not going to be permanent, since it is his work address, the company his works for. I’m curious what he will change it too at the end of the year.

I’m glad I didn’t’ act on my anger yesterday. The only thing that still bothers me is that he didn’t inform me of the changes and just did it quietly. Does he think that I’m not interested in this, or he just wanted to avoid a potential confrontation or a contact with me? I don’t know. But, guess what, I went to the account and added my e-mail address as a secondary. And he got an e-mail notification about this. So, following his way so to speak.

Yes, if it is MLC, he is very slow. It has been a pattern. He sits on his @ss and does nothing for a while, then he starts doing things, like separating accounts or picking up stuff from the house. Then he disappears again, and it all quiet for some time. Only to resume what it looks like to be moving on. Sometimes I think that it takes a long time for him to actually bring himself to do another step away from me. It like he is trying to avoid the situation, and if I don’t push, he will do nothing, until it becomes too uncomfortable or weird. Part of me wants to continue to be patient and let him make his decisions. After all he needs to be responsible for his decisions, and I don’t want to make it any easier for him. The other part of me just wants it to be over.

Thanks for having faith in me and saying that I’ve been doing good. Some days I just don’t feel like it. But I keep going. The new job definitely helps.