Dealing with an ongoing affair

[PeterV2]

I'm reading it now. I took the stress test on my W's behalf and she is in the "Severe - get help now!" class.
She spent some time with her mum today which was not smooth - she was quite upset when I went to pick her up later. I took her to a comedy show and dinner afterwards. She unloaded on me about her mum and I took it all in without trying to fix it - just empathizing. She said it helped. The comedy show also helped.