Yes Job, I got that message & read it & was taking my time for it to sink in before commenting... its a very good read on dropping the rope. Thank you for reposting & making sure I read it!!! (TWICE)
Sandi !!!! WOW!!! step by step instructions... this is what I need!!
I am very serious about dropping the rope. Therefore I did not react to his decision to not come into work today. I merely stated "ok"... did you notice how he eventually called at the end of the work day... to check in?? I promised I would not ask ANYTHING about his choice to not come in... and I didn't. I did not show coldness or disappointment in his not coming in today. I did not punish or feel revengeful... I think I did good!! I really did not care, therefore I was OK & it really didnt matter !! Even earlier in the day when he brought up ""that agent" that I am jealous of & the sexual innuendo comments that he was trying to lead with... I did not indulge or react... (proud of myself). I am learning the "art" of non-reaction.
Ok... so this was one event... apparently this will need to happen again & I will need to show/be consistent.... THIS IS MY TEST, consistency!!! I can imagine it will be tough & will need to be hand held through it. This is just the beginning.
I will NOT encourage any type of R... not even friends... that will be his job, if he wants one with me!! In fact, I will go the other direction....willingly. (or try to)
Yes, it will be difficult ... I know this about myself. I will finish up my financial responsibility, so I will be secure. I will call that lawyer tomorrow.
Thanks again Job & Sandi.....please hold my hand?
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
