I am totally second guessing myself because I have never really said NO to him before.

It feels very uncomfortable. I fear the outcome. I fear that he will see this as a game & play back or that I don't want him anymore & will take that seriously and let me go.

My DD helped me with a context.... to think of my action as like I put him in a "time out". I told him to go "think", so go THINK!!!

I really want him to see this as an "opportunity" to get things right with me.

I really want me to be OK with what ever outcome.

He tried to sneak out of his time-out chair yesterday...I was tested.

M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)