happy birthday cczamo! sorry i'm late I think you did the right thing not mentioning the weight loss. All the things you listed on your own actions are exactly the things I do. Treat him like a neighbor or co-worker, no R talks. I let him start the conversation. Is yours in MLC? He sounds kinda like my exH. There is no way to know if you'll ever reconcile but you have to just be patient and see what happens. Let what happens happen in God's time. I thought mine would be gone like the wind since he was in such a big hurry, but he's still doing touch and go's usually every 2 weeks I'll hear from him - it wouldn't surprise me if you hear from yours in the future. You will feel better after the D is final I think, I certainly did. So glad you did the divorcecare class - that helped me SO much, I'm still reading that book again because i've moved through most of the rebuilding blocks and like to see it at each new point in my life, making sure that i'm not stuck anywhere. Don't worry about what he is thinking right now, there's no way to know that. In my mind there's no way he isn't reminded of you on a daily basis, just as you are reminded of him. He's just had a lot more time to plan for it than you did since he is the one that BD'd. Forgiveness is key - him and yourself. Take care, hope you had a good birthday - i saw your note that your stbx texted you - mine forgot my birthday all together and we were still living together at the time. so at least ya got that note!!
Me - 42 exH - 56 Married 10.5 years Together 17 bomb dropped 1/6/14 signed papers 2/4/14 H moved out 2/22/14 D final 4/4/14 Dropped the rope 5/17/14 2 cats, 2 dogs
