hope456 - accepting my new reality

[labug]

You don't know what the future looks like so you don't know if he'll change his mind or not. Let him figure all this D stuff out, I'm a little unclear about why you're helping him so much.

I was very disappointed that he called me on the way to the courthouse to tell me he was doing it. He claims, repeatedly, that we are "best friends" and that he never wants to lose that. I asked him very recently to please keep me informed as to timing so that I wasn't blindsided and his way of doing that was to call me on the way to the courthouse. WTF is wrong with him? When I said (calmly), "I thought you were going to make sure I was aware of timing", he said, "Well, I was planning to do it Friday, but I had some free time today, so I decided to go ahead and do it." Yup, totally how my friends treat me.

Would you say this is a snapshot of your communication with H through your time together? IN reading it I could see both sides because I'm not emotionally invested. He thought he was being clear, you thought you were being clear.

What can you do to make communication better?

I also think you're both over-communicating right now.