Barrybran - New Thread

[Barrybran]

My wife wasn't quite finished. She messaged a while later and wound up doing so for more than an hour. It's the second night in a row she has done this. The content was about my infidelity and tonight was specifically how it had affected her. I validated where appropriate, responded where appropriate and many times the conversation could have ended and my wife chose to continue it.

She sent me an article describing the impact my actions would have on the kids. I told her that I had read something similar and that it had scared me. She responded that I didn't tell her I'd read something like that. In my head I was saying "well, you weren't exactly ready to listen to me". I just responded that I hadn't told her and she got a bit snippy because she was sending me things I had read. I thanked her for sending it as it made me think.

The content of the conversation was far from positive. The words have a 'trying to move on' feel to them. It's the action of communicating when she has previously chosen not to that I look at. The way I see things now, she can stay and work on things (well down the line) or she can leave and she has to figure things out on her own. I've started moving forward myself and I hope she chooses to join me.

Speaking of moving forward, my university application was approved today. Looks like I'll be spending even more time reading.