Your h and the ow may not be on the outs. They do go through stages of hating us for everything because they do think we are the problem. Just like a teenager growing up. One day they decide we are horrible and hate us for being authority figures, but eventually they discover what we have done is for their own good. Your h is a teenager phase right now.
How are the plans coming for the celebrations? I do hope the weather is nice for both of them.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
