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[Barrybran]

My wife sent a letter to the woman I had my affair with tonight:

We do not know each other. You may know of me, from conversations you have had with Barrybran. But until this all went down, I did not know you existed. I have now heard the entire story of what happened with you and Barrybran, and I was not only beyond hurt, but disappointed because I believed there was a moral code between all women, one that we were born with. As much as we may try to silence it, make excuses to ignore it, or take substances to numb it – it’s still there. My relationship has now come to an end. My family hurts. His family hurts. There have been so many tears and pain from not only us, but the people in our lives that love us. I want you to know, that your actions have had ripple effects, and has caused a lot of pain to good people.

I’m not blaming you – what happened would have occurred one day sooner or later in some form or another. But you do have a responsibility as a dignified human being. I am writing this to you because I hope, that in the future, if the moment presents itself where there is a taken man, no matter how happy or unhappy he is, how sober or intoxicated he is, you remember the power you have to be a part of destroying someones life, or not.

I don’t know you are a good person, but I assume you never had intentions of causing harm. But your decisions define you. I hope, for the sake of other women and their families, that you make a better one next time.

She went on to tell me:

I copied majority of the above because it sums up what I wanted to say to you without anger. I could have done this a lot sooner, but I am doing this now as a peace to myself.

I asked her how she felt now that she'd sent it and she said it was better than wondering if she should send it or not. I validated this and the conversation wound up.