That is so nice that you got that text from your H, daring! His acknowledgement is a testament to how well you are doing.
It is sad what your kids may have to go through. But one of the vets here that I truly admire likes to say that if they see you are doing well, they will too. Keep going!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl