hope456 - accepting my new reality

[KGirl]

First - I'm very sorry about the news from your H today. I imagine that it must be difficult to hear that he's finally taken that step (although we have yet to see if he actually follows through...?)

Re: your previous post about H asking about your job interview, what is with them wanting to know everything about us but wanting to keep their own lives a secret? My H did the same thing this weekend. He was "going away" for the weekend and only after I put some pieces together/overheard phone conversations with his mom did I realize he was going to his parents. But yet, when I was gone for 12 hours on Sunday, all sorts of questions: "So where'd you eat lunch? You must have eaten dinner somewhere too..? Where'd you have a bonfire? Who was all there?" etc. I also feel bad and want to rescue my H in some aspects (like taking care of the cat when he's "gone", whatever that means) but he chose to take on these responsibilities, he will need to learn to deal with them. I think they need to struggle for awhile before any change, if it's going to happen, can happen.