FY, what they said about her knowing you are wanting more and it's pressuring is exactly on...one of the reasons W moved out, per her, was to get space to decide without "feeling" me wanting, and her feeling bad for me, and guilty. She wanted space to truly decide without any pressures from guilt, feeling bad, etc. And I wasn't even trying any physical contact, at all, nada. But she knows me, like your W knows you...they DO know.
Hang in there!!
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