gabbysmom has a point, FY. I thought that because my W didn't leave, she was giving the M a chance when the truth was that as soon as she got a push and money help from my FIL, she wants not only to separate but a full D now. All of it changed the day her dad said he would pay for her lawyer and help pay for her own place. Up until that moment she was content to live apart see how that went, etc. Now, nothing but D will do. I really thought things had started to get better but she now says they never did. (doesn't matter that I saw her loosen up. All it takes is one wrong word or the right person to stick their nose in and it goes back to always being bad).
Just be careful, FY. I really want things to get better for you both as that kind of thing gives us all hope. Just be sure you are seeing thing as they are, not as you wish they are.
