So earlier H and I briefly spoke about some kid logistics. He seemed pretty cold and business like. I was disappointed because the other day I called him to chat and he was quite warm and friendly and we chatted for 45 minutes. This is REALLY important bc H felt that 'being able to talk about anything' was a major thing that attracted him to me. And he and OW used to just chat quite a bit.
This afternoon I had to let him know some more logistics so I decided to experiment and see if I could get him to warm up/chat again. I called and put on my friendliest voice, told him what I needed to (he had offered to help with the kids tomorrow night because I thought I might need to help my parents but I don't) and then I: 1). thanked him for his offer to help and said that was really kind of him (working on words of affirmation, I think H's love language) and 2). successfully engaged him in some chit chat. And not just about the kids :-) We very pleasantly chatted for ~25 minutes. H even brought up a funny old memory between us. At the end he said 'It was nice chatting'.
Overall a very positive warm interaction.
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
