I was very authentic the other day.. now I am trying to hold my position and NOT bug or speak of getting back together. To do as Job suggested: you've made yourself very clear. You do not need to clarify anything else. Leave him be to mull things over. Step back, leave the rope on the ground and go about your business. Actions speak louder than words...give him the time and space he requires. You can't rush this...
SO... how can I do this... and why does he bother to ask me to go? This messes me up. How do I leave the rope on the ground in this circumstance? My action of NOT going speaks loud, how? What would it say? What would it say if I went? I am trying to give him the time, but he asked me...
I was doing so well yesterday & day before!
Advina ~~Every attempt people have had here to encourage you to change your feelings, to be less desperate for him, to realize how little he offers you, have hit a wall of resistance. So maybe accept that you are desperate for this guy who does not have the capacity to offer you a commitment, and go for it. See where it leads.
I am seeing how little he offers here... I am seeing a "fake date" offer here... which is why I think I should decline... I see that he does not have the capacity to offer a commitment at this time, just fun.... so...do I take it? ... if this was a real date, I would, this time. But this is NOT a date! I do want the opportunity to have fun some time.
I am not that desperate to accept a fake date, am I?
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
