I do not envy the position you find yourself in. I can only imagine how hard this has to be on YOU and YOUR W. Personally, I think it is always easier to call it a day when you are dealing with a spewing, cheating WAS. Then again, the decision to end a M is NEVER an easy one.
I echo what a lot of people have already posted to you – hat’s off to you for continuing to stand for your M.
I think the points that Cat, Mach and other make is a very good one, which is to understand WHY and WHAT you are really standing for.
A poster known as Bworl (I wish more people would read up on him in the archives)….once wrote something that I truly believe in.
Are you standing for FEAR or for love.
I think that is the question you need to ask yourself FY. Is it the fear of losing what YOU believe you have right now….or are you standing because you truly love your wife?
Tough question…one that I think for YOU and for YOUR W….requires time. IMO, you should take as much time as you need.
Another poster (J3B) once said to me…..”whatever you decide make sure you do it with no regrets”.
When you think of no regrets I think the tendency is to think about it from the perspective of leaving a R. However, I believe that it goes both ways. You do not want to STAY in a R that you will ultimately have regrets about. If staying in this R with your W will result in you having regrets about HOW long you stood and waited…I think you should consider this as well.
I have no doubt that at some point you will figure it all out.
I’ll leave you with the one quote from Cat that really stood out to me….
“It doesn't hold the meaning you are placing on it until she says it does.”
Think about this FY…… are you holding on to something that YOU want vs what she really wants?
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
