Bright, I understand your anger about the redecorating, but you have to let it go. They don't think about how things look or how we will feel when this type of thing happens. I'm glad to see that you removed all of the items and felt a bit better after doing so.
You are beginning to tire of his nonsense. My question to you is this...what are you going to do to change the dynamics of your situation? Is it time to advise him to have his mail and other deliveries delivered elsewhere? Is it time to set him free to grow up. Is it time to stop being so readily available to do things for him?
He relies on and sees you as a mother figure, someone who will take care of his needs if he needs to call home. Bright, you are not his mother or his employee and it's time to change that perception. He's living his life the way he wants to and yet, you are attempting to live yours, but you can't get very far because he's posting about what he needs you to do all of the time from afar. Bright, I've walked this path w/you since you came to the forum, it's time to try something new. Why? Because he's going to continue doing what he's doing because his world is nice and comfortable and he doesn't have to worry...Bright is right where I left her. It's time to think about what Bright wants and needs and not worry so much about Mr Bright.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
