Cnfused, sorry that it has come to this. Haven't completely caught up on your situation yet but trying to offer a little support. Thoughts and prayers are with you.

No great advice on how to respond except to look within and respond with what you know is right.

IMO, I would suggest STFU as the course of action. There is no need to really respond to the text. And however you respond will be interpreted however she would like anyway.

Stay strong!

Me-48,W-51
M-22,T-24
S- 18,16,9
Feb-Jul '11 Away from Home, after initial B date
Aug-Dec '11 Back at Home on couch
Dec '11-now Same bedroom, room mates only
Dec '14 W files initial D paperwork