Magic, Why did you feel the need to tell your xbf about the text message from your male friend? Where you attempting to get a reaction out of him? If so, his response what you expected. You and your xbf are no longer in a committed relationship, so unless the messages are business related or something to do w/your family, you might want to think about keeping the personal texts to yourself. You both are living separate lives and until things change it's not necessary to share such things w/him unless you are attempting to get a reaction.
You mentioned that your nose got out of joint...why? What created it?
Also, why not go the dinner this evening? You worked hard and have earned the right to go as a business partner. If your xbf should ask you about going, you should think about it. This is a golden opportunity to shine and show your xbf that you can do things w/o expectations. This is a good time to network and meet up w/people and have an enjoyable night out, i.e., it would be something you could share w/him or you could attend solo. Many people do that as well...but go and enjoy yourself. But, if you would much prefer to stay home and brood, by all means do so. The only person you are hurting is yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
