You are both using a member of the opposite sex to play games and attempt to re-attract the other back into the relationship, in my opinion. You can SAY you're not, or that "I'm not attracted to him . . . at ALL!" and such, but it's much like the wayward wife who attempts to reassure her husband about her OM with the "Oh, no! I'm not attracted to him at all! In fact, I think he may be gay!" script.
