just checkin in- usual S show here. don't have much- just wanted to say hello and hope eye and things are going well.
you know my opinion of Florida - something about hot weather attrcts all the nuts and criminals & scammers. something about the heat maybe - makes it seem like "livin is free" or something"
i honestly don't know- it's a weird society compared to good old, steady, traditional values in NJ. give me the northeast any old time. everyone i know up here is married for a million years and still together. everyone i know down there is divorced - at least once ... it is a different world honestly (me being a crank about it aside). too much money, too much crime, too much big poverty, too much nudity, too much nite life & alternative life(style)too much vanity- too much envy & jealosy, too much social competition, too much "vacation sex" mentality- , etc. i guess. all of that really- who can know- alot of people who just want to chuck "reality" of their home states and live somewhere "free" and "fun" alllllll the time. come for vacation and just stay- maybe that's it- makes people think they're livin on fantasy island and there's no price to pay for immorality??
Hey, just wanted to check in and see how you were doing.
M36 XH34 M-5 T7 4/11 H confused 5/11 ILYB 6/11 OW discovered 7/11 I move out, OW over 5/12-OW2,done->new EA, but H wont file 9/12 H "best bf ever" to EA/OW3 3/13 H/OW break up H files 4/13 D 6/18/13
Just a quick update. I have been following a lot of your threads, and posting on a few, but have not really updated my own in months. I just wanted to let you all know that my divorce was finalized on May 19th, and H still plans to move to Moscow to live with the Russian. However......she flew over for a 2 week vacation in March, and now "thinks" she might like to live somewhere a bit warmer than Moscow, like Tampa St. Pete, for instance. LOL. He is still in the house with me, but plans to move in with his mom on July 1st. How sad is that?
I hope you are all well and surviving the craziness. I KNOW that you are, in your usual awesome way!!
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
Nice to see you back on here... Sorry to hear about your divorce and your husband is still crazy. Hope you are managing well.
Just wanted to say hi....
Hugs, Magic!!
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
RL All I can say is that at some point he will be sorry!! My xh admitted to me that the first OW was a huge mistake (the second one is too, but he doesn't see it - yet!)
You are an awesome woman. I hope you didn't give him the shop in the divorce settlement - they only spend it on stupid things, and it can keep us warm at night! LOL
RL, I'm glad you returned to post an update. I'm sorry about your divorce, but at least now, you can breathe a sign of relief and know that you are no longer responsible for any joint debt he may incur.
I'm not at all surprised that she wants to move here. That was her goal all along and now she just needs to figure out how she's going to use him to get over here. Once your xh moves out, things should settle a bit more and then you can redecorate to your heart's content.
One day, if he should wake up, he'll be asking himself wtf did I do? I agree...he's going to be sorry for what he's done and it will too late because you will have already moved on w/your life. All I can do is shake my head and think "poor fool".
RL, live your life to the fullest...you've earned your halo!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
A divorced woman...hmmmm. So XH chooses to spackle kitchens instead of sitting out on a deck sipping iced tea with his wife of 30-years watching the sunset. What a messed up man he is....
I take that you've kept the house in the D. Good for you! How did your sons take the D? Do they have a relationship with their father?
Linda, it sounds like you're doing well, even with all this craziness.
How funny that everyone else in the world knew what the Russian was up to, but he still can't see it.
Like job, I wonder if he'll ever realize exactly what he gave up.
M36 XH34 M-5 T7 4/11 H confused 5/11 ILYB 6/11 OW discovered 7/11 I move out, OW over 5/12-OW2,done->new EA, but H wont file 9/12 H "best bf ever" to EA/OW3 3/13 H/OW break up H files 4/13 D 6/18/13
Linda, good to “see” you here. I’ve been busy and not able to post much, but I’ve read your update. I agree with others, what a foolish man your XH is, and so stubborn. I wonder how it is going to work out for him. He is dead set to move to Moscow, while RT has completely different intentions. I can see the troubles coming, LOL.
Why July 1? Why didn’t he already move? At least I hope he finished the fence.
I hope you are doing some fun things these days. (((((hugs)))))
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
