I just had my first attempt at informing my wife I was going to do something with the kids and inviting her along. It's my birthday on Friday and I decided I would take the kids out to dinner on Friday and to extend the invitation to my wife. I do want her to come and I didn't know how to word it to extend the invite in a way that let's her know I would like her there though I'd be going whether she did or not. She's been ill and I did consider this.
I got home, told her I'd be taking the kids out and said I'd like her to come. She replied if she felt well. I'd forgotten this and immediately backtracked and said we could do something at home on Friday and put off going out until next week. She didn't respond. I know I stuffed this one up. I'll go ahead with dinner on Friday anyway whether she's there or not.
On the bright side, it's a first out of the way. Yes it's taken a long time. It's a big milestone for me having come from codependency to forming a plan that includes my wife though only if she's willing. I'm looking forward to asking the kids over dinner tomorrow what they would like on Friday :-)
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014
