buz 29: NO CONTROL ~ respond vs. reacting.. dates?

[makingmagic]

Realizing today that my R talk and request for reconciliation, will be put on *hold* as he now is fully focusing on the status of our business location and his possible new purchase for location.

Had a productive work day at home, then went into work. A short while later, got my typical coffee offer. Said sure. When he arrived with coffees, we sat in the office.

I received a text message today from that male "friend" who tried to sabotage any chances with Xbf. He was asking me to join him at a family function. I decided to tell my Xbf about this, as I had nothing to hide. When I did, he appeared to jokingly question his agenda. He then turned it into an odd question about meat. Then he proceeded to smirk and state that he was thinking of asking me out for dinner tomorrow. I was like "huh"? As he was smirking. I didn't respond and asked what he was smirking about. Turns out that our usual spring "business association cocktail date" is tomorrow evening (hence the meat comment). We typically enjoy this evening as it offers a variety of food to test, mingling with associates & high end vehicle viewing. I did not respond as we got off topic.

He then proceeded to discuss his options to make an offer for the property that we currently rent. He listened to my opinion, etc. He was expressing how he will be using that real estate agent that is attracted to him. He states that she is the best person for the job (due to a complicated connection of another separate business venture of selling his other property). I do see his point. However, I am jealous !! I try not to show it. I ask business related questions about it only... not personal or about her directly. As it was getting time to leave, I stated that I was leaving as another client call came through for him. I signalled for him to call me after that call to inform me of the client call. He did not. (all of this is soooo not like me... not like me to enquire & beg for information about the transaction or her). I buried my bone & left it alone.

A little while later, he texts about a business request but asks that I respond tomorrow.

This has my nose out of joint a bit... but trying to chill about it. DD and I watched TV and that helped take my mind off things. I know that he said earlier that he wants to "think" this evening... obviously about the business transaction & getting his offer organized. So.. I did not text back.

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A couple of things come to mind:

1) he now has a *justified* reason & cannot focus on our previous R talk.
2) as a friend pointed out yesterday, he stated that he is cautious of getting back together because he is scared that old behaviours/arguments will arise (I understand this) & that may be why he possibly is wanting to have light hearted fun before we get "serious". To lighten things back up, to ensure success ??
3) although a different friend suggests that if I do that ^^^, he may just be looking to have his cake & getting it without commitment. Why commit, if he doesn't have
4) he asked for my time tomorrow for association dinner, however I think that it is too easy & not really considered a "date"... so should probably decline. If he wants a "date"...it should be a real one... not an association cocktail auction. Too easy!!! I'm not that desperate!! (although, I do enjoy that outing)

So... some things to think about...not sure what to make of any of it.

Although, I am not going to worry about it or overthink it....right?