Thornton - I am a newbie here but just wanted to offer some shared feelings. I understand your fear. I think it is common for us because I know in my shoes I live in fear wondering and walking on eggshells if it will affect my spouse in a way that will push him further away.
I think it gets better with time and a PMA. Fake it til you make it! Lol but seriously keep on GAL. I am sure you have conquered things since BD that you never thought you would be able to do this time last year.